I've Worn Black to a Wedding 3 Times—Here Are My Dos and Don'ts

Can you wear black to a wedding? In my opinion, it's a yes, but with a few rules, regs and caveats. I've personally worn black to three weddings over the past few years, and it hasn't caused trouble yet. In fact, the formulas I've come up with have become really trusty, failsafe outfits for those nuptials and events where you really don't have a clue what to wear.

Unlike many other social engagements, weddings can often come with a specific set of guidelines and requests from the happy couple, but a lot of these have changed and evolved over time. Like many etiquette rules surrounding vows, engagements, gifts and more, appropriate wedding guest attire can often fall into a grey area. And despite many traditional regulations relaxing, this idea of whether black is suitable or not still comes up time and again as a question.

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Hannah Almassi

Style Notes: Mismatched accessories and a shoulder-robed jacket make this form-fitting black dress feel less funereal and more fun—perfect for an evening of dancing! 

The answers will vary depending on the specific event and the people getting married, and when I've been unsure of my choices I have asked the bride in advance (all times it's entirely not an issue, and they were surprised I even asked). I'd say always do the following: try to break up the black with fun accessories, don't go OTT on flashing a lot of flesh and be careful to opt for something that definitely feels "dressed up" rather than your go-to work shirtdress.

As well as my own tips of how you can navigate wearing black to a wedding, we also asked a few cool fashion girls about their thoughts on the matter: "Anything but white is fair game, and black, in my book, is always chic and practical. I've lightened up a black cocktail dress for a summer wedding with coloured shoes, statement jewellery, or red lipstick," says super-stylist Rachel Wang, echoing my thoughts entirely.

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Hannah Almassi

Style Notes: Sometimes all you need to do is pick a silhouette that feels trend-driven and add gold accessories for a bit of sparkle. This was appropriate for the pretty outdoorsy wedding I went to as it was knitted but backless for a bit of sass.

"I definitely think it's appropriate to wear black to a wedding, especially if the attire is black-tie. I also think it depends on the location/aesthetic of the wedding," says Who What Wear U.S.'s Lauren Eggertsen. "For example, I recently attended a black-tie wedding where the reception took place in a gorgeous ballroom, so a black dress seemed more than appropriate. If I was attending a summertime outdoor wedding, black might seem out of place."

On the other hand, her colleague Erin Fitzpatrick would steer clear of turning to the dark side. "I definitely don't think it's a universal rule anymore, but I personally prefer to skip black dresses for weddings. Since every wedding I've been to has been in the summer, it just feels right to choose something fun and colourful, which suits my style better anyway. Plus, for some reason, I still associate black with funerals rather than weddings, so I tend to steer clear of it."

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Hannah Almassi

Style Notes: Country weddings often call for floral dresses, but that works for black floral dresses too. 

Shop the Best Black Wedding Guest Dresses 

Black doesn't mean you have to shun florals. Case in point? This dress. 

Add any bold accessories to this flattering dress and you've got yourself a great outfit. 

Try a splash of colour to make your outfit more summery and vibrant. 

It might be dark but the ruffles and sheer material make this a party dress for sure. 

Rejina Pyo can do no wrong when it comes to statement dresses. 

Great for a wedding but also great for work when worn with boots.

The fringing alone gives this frock a real party edge. Add a headband and some gold heels and this is wedding-ready. 

Rixo consistently gives us dresses to swoon over. 

This looks way more expensive than it is. 

Want to wear black but something that doesn't appear to dark? We may have found the perfect option. 

Heading to a wedding with a black-tie dress code? We've found the ideal dress. 

This may be simple but all you need to do it add a pair of stand-out heels, gold accessories, and a bold clutch bag. 

This dress might have a waiting list, but it's so flattering that it's worth signing up for it, as it's available 2nd June. 

The metallic stripes running through this make it super fun. 

Problem solved. You're welcome.

This post was originally published on Who What Wear U.S. and has since been updated.